You have to get wound up to truly unwind. I suppose it’s the nature of duality, but you can’t be unwound all the time without deadening boredom coming in. Separate your work time from your free time. Have dedicated free time in your day, every day if you can. If you can’t, make the time anyway. There’s a time to hold firm, and a time to flow, a time for control and a time to let go. Figure it out, when’s best for you.
Come up with plans for good free time, of cool things you can do. If you don’t even remember how to have fun anymore, just make the time and start remembering what you used to do for free fun time. Be flexible with it, start off small and start looking to have a good time. Enjoy!